You are totally right, and I was definitely participating in some stupid gender stereotyping in my comment. I hate when I do that without even realizing it, and thank you for calling me on it. I can only try to be better in the future when I am made aware that I'm still doing that thing I hate. :)

And yes, people still do that. And yes, being the bottom or submissive or the person-being-penetrated doesn't mean the person is powerless. But often it's written that way, as that boyman being all vulnerable and scared/hurt/uncertain. And I just wanna read them all excited about getting fucked and not feeling powerless at all. (And them being not so emotionally raw and out of character.)

I think I'll just have to go write some...