ext_59519 ([identity profile] salixbabylon.livejournal.com) wrote in [personal profile] salixbabylon 2008-06-10 01:14 am (UTC)

Aww, you'll make me blush.

I wonder if part of the problem might be that so many people/writers are subs, and the *fantasy* of giving up control is so attractive, that in the absense of any hands-on experience or study of how to do bdsm in real life, they are just writing their *fantasy* of having no control.

I know the first few kinky fantasies i wrote were from the sub's POV and *wow* - so totally unclear about consent and safewords and whatnot. It's true that taking the time to explain all of those things *does* bring the reader out of the scene and the headspace...

Hmmm... Just thinking thinky thoughts... ;)

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