you get what you ask for

[salixbabylon]

I wanted to post this because even though it's a little on the hippy-dippy side, this is something I really believe in. My life isn't perfect, but it's a hell of a lot better now than it was 2 years ago. And mostly due to this woman and the directions she's pointed me in. This is from my life coach, Kyle King's, newsletter:


What's All This Talk About The "Law of Attraction"?

[...] ever since the Oprah show about the movie "The Secret" loads of people are bending my ear about the "law of attraction", and gushing "isn't it wonderful, this amazing secret I heard about on Oprah?!".

Well, yes it is wonderful - but geez...it's not a flippin' secret!

The law of attraction is basically "like attracts like", or "you get what you think about", or my very least favorite saying (when I'm in the middle of a muddle) "you create your own reality". So, if you've been unhappy and focused on what's wrong in your life, you get more of the same. Or if you are criticizing others, you'll find others criticizing you, and even if you are afraid of something happening, it generally does. It works in the opposite way as well so that if you are focused on appreciating your life, other people, and your circumstances, your life is pretty good and it flows well.

You know all this, so why is it a "secret"? We've been talking about this for years, right here in this newsletter. Many of your responses to me over the years have included a working knowledge of these things, and gratitude for the reminder in the latest newsletter.

I want to comment on how we all know and understand this concept, and even though it is very simple, it just isn't that easy to shift into appreciation when you are in despair. You know what I mean?

I have a trick for you. When you are feeling really rotten; upset, angry, put out, or downright scared, make every effort to just soothe yourself into the next best place you can get to. So, instead of trying to jump all the way into joy, go for an emotion that is better than despair, like anger. Now I'm not suggesting that you stay angry, I'm just suggesting that you make a stop there, on your way to frustration, then hope, and ultimately joy.

Everyone in your life likes it better when you're depressed because you're quiet and in your room, but when you're angry and you're banging around in the kitchen, you're probably making others wish you were depressed again... But you won't stay there, you'll just be moving slowly in the direction of joy and appreciation.

One day during a yoga session, the instructor said something incredible. We were in the Eagle pose and it's one of those yoga positions where, if you're doing it correctly, you'll look like a pretzel. It's a tough move, and so rewarding when you get it, but trying to get your foot behind your leg and wrapped around it while you're standing on one foot, and your arms are tangled together too, is no small feat. She obviously could sense the difficultly her students were having as we grimaced and strained to get the foot wrapped, and mildly said, "Point your toes in the direction you want them to go and relax. You'll get there eventually and it will be wonderful when that happens, but do your best to enjoy where you are right now".

Good food for thought.

Go easy with life, enjoy your moments to the best of your ability and trust that life is about the journey, not the destination. The law of attraction works for all of us, so if you just listen to how you feel, you'll know if you're going in the direction of what you want. Good feels good, and bad feels bad...if you're upset; relax, take a breath and just gently think again.


Relax. Breathe. Enjoy where you are. Appreciate the good things around you. Focus on what the best possible outcome might be. Picture abundance.

Good advice, I think.

Comments

you get what you ask for

[willys-digs.livejournal.com]

God, I've always believed in that, and I don't Yoga! *g*

hugs

Jo

[andolinn.livejournal.com]

Thank you my dear for sharing this. I have come to believe that there will always be good and bad things happening in your life at the same time and that you may not be able to tell which is which until long afterwards. So if you're waiting for things to be perfect to be happy, you never will be.

There are so many people on my flist just now who could benefit from this. Would you mind if I linked to it?

Re: you get what you ask for

[salixbabylon.livejournal.com]

It's always nice when people start to see how their attitude affects their lives. :)

*hug*

[salixbabylon.livejournal.com]

One of Kyle's big messages is "don't wait for things to improve - make them better yourself."

And yes - pass it along. It's not a "secret". ;)

*hug*

[uinendolothen.livejournal.com]

My husband has lived with that philosophy for as long as I've known him, and I'm sure it was his mindset long before that. And you know? Things work out pretty well for him.

I try to do it and when my brain is properly functioning, I'm successful. Other times, not so much.

It does seem like it should be an obvious thing, though, doesn't it?

[salixbabylon.livejournal.com]

*hug* It's pretty hard to change your pattern of thinking, especially once brain chemistry imbalances are thrown into the mix. But I do know that when I make an effort to think positive thoughts, even when I feel like I'm mired in the depths of depression, it does help a teeny bit.

it does seem obvious, but like a lot of obvious things in life ("be nice" and "eat well") simplicity doesn't make it easy. I think it's ok to be struggling, so long as I keep fumbling in a forward direction. :)

[molly-millions.livejournal.com]

I've been going through Dialectic Behaviorial Therapy to deal with some things in my past, and much of what is being said here is what is taught in my classes. If you're in the right, receptive frame of mind, this can be done, and I try very hard to use the skills I've been taught to cope with my PTSD. If I'm depressed it's nearly impossible to do these things, but if I can get myself lifted out of that emotional mindset, I am a dynamic positive successful person.

Also I wanted to THANK YOU for those links you posted awhile back. I've been using the Bob Griswold Self Esteem one and I really like it. I'm looking into other ones I downloaded from your links and looking on Amazon for more too. Every bit of effort helps, and I have already come so far. :) Thanks so much sweetie!

[salixbabylon.livejournal.com]

Yes, I think a lot of people are saying these things lately - it's like everyone's realizing stuff at the same time. :)

You're very welcome for the links and guided meditations - glad you're enjoying them.