thinks that make you go hmmm

[salixbabylon]

I was apparently mistaken that the majority of my f-list was composted of straight women, although wholly approving of the gay stuff.

Apparently there's a bunch of bi-and-queer women as well.

Count me as thrilled to be wrong. :)


Feel free to comment and be noted as queer, however you define it. However, don't let my curiosity make you feel pressured either way. It's not really a big deal.

ETA: Last time I did a huge poll, my f-list/participants said about 20% of them identified as bisexual/queer. That was 4 years ago and my f-list has grown and changed, so I'm a bit curious. That's why I even included this, but if it offends you in any way, hey, just skip over it. ;)

I suppose I could have done a poll... But I just thought of that possibility and, well, I'm lazy.

Comments

[roshismomma.livejournal.com]

you already know all about me, i think.

[salixbabylon.livejournal.com]

I think so. ;)

[blamebrampton.livejournal.com]

I don't identify as anything, though I slept with women in my single days. I suppose if you were looking for a label it would be unconcerned and opportunistic for the pretty ...

[salixbabylon.livejournal.com]

"opportunistic" - sounds like a great label to me! :)

[floatingleaf.livejournal.com]

Count me in among the queer variety. Not that it prevents me from having the hots for Viggo, btw.:) And occasionally Orlando. But then, he's such a girl, I'm not sure that counts.:P

[salixbabylon.livejournal.com]

Hehehehe! Too true. Although he's a lot less girly now that he's all grown up. *sigh*

[lisagems.livejournal.com]

I like the way a man smells and feels, but I love the way a woman kisses. Count me bi.

[salixbabylon.livejournal.com]

*growl* Thanks for reminding me to remember how women kiss....

*melts*

[chaosmanor.livejournal.com]

Queer. Bisexual, kink-friendly, sex-positive. Flirting with gender queer. Previously, twelve years polyamorously married to a man and a woman. Currently experimenting with monogamy with my male partner of eighteen years.

Actually, I think 'currently experimenting' just about sums it all up.

[salixbabylon.livejournal.com]

You, I knew about. ;)

Maybe we can trade - I've got 14 years of boy-monogamy and think I'd like to try a little more girl-polyness...

Thanks for standing up to be counted! *smooch*

[tellingasecret.livejournal.com]

I'll keep it simple and go bi.

Well, no go, but answer bi. XD

[salixbabylon.livejournal.com]

hahahhahaha

best answer so far ;)

[hammil77.livejournal.com]

I'm really not much for labels but I guess I'd call myself open. I've only had dealings so far with males but quite frankly I'm not about to say no to women. I find both sexes attractive and I don't know that I'd be comfortable with defining myself as gay or straight or bi until I've actually tried everything there is out there.

[salixbabylon.livejournal.com]

until I've actually tried everything there is out there

Awesome. And I'll be here waiting for all of the stories when you need a rest from all that activity. ;)

[mizbhaven13.livejournal.com]

People get a giggle when I say that I am a non-practicing bisexual. I haven't had a proper gf since the Princess was born - and before that, I only had 3. I still enjoy watching & looking at pretty women, just haven't been with one in ages. Hence the non-practicing part.

[salixbabylon.livejournal.com]

A non-practicing bisexual -- I love that! Me too. :)

What a great label!

[heartofslash.livejournal.com]

About 20 years ago a friend invented the category of "impartial" for me.

I don't think I've changed much.

Actually, I have. I'm more comfortable with cocks now. Hence... the slash.

(Note that you're supposed to imagine that last part said in the voice of Alan Rickman as the Metatron in Dogma, because I'm all about the movie allusions.)

[salixbabylon.livejournal.com]

"impartial" - Hmmm... I'd say that you're rather partial to sex. Picky, but open to possibility.

*rowr* Because you know how unmoved I am by Alan Rickman's voice. I'd love to have a recording of him talking about slash. Or sex. Or whispering sweethotdirtytalk to me...

[nverland]

Shoot, we have to choose? No, we don't and we don't really have to respond, but as you asked so nicely. Bi, leaning more towards males at most times, but a nice girl is a nice change. (and for the record, the male in my life is very practicing bi)

[salixbabylon.livejournal.com]

The choice is always yours, to choose and choose again and again and again. ;)

I always wanted a bi boy. Sadly, all the men in my life have been hopelessly straight.

A nice girl *is* a nice change. A *naughty* girl is even better. ;)

[willys-digs.livejournal.com]

Is there a neither in there somewhere? :)

hugs

Jo

[salixbabylon.livejournal.com]

We'll make you a special category. ;)

[ladykatiewench.livejournal.com]

Oooh...hadn't commented on this yet! Bad Katie!!

Well, by preference, I am bi. Unfortunately, I haven't had any of either in WAY too long. And in performance I am about 3/4 straight, 1/4 gay. But that's only because I have such bad gaydar when it comes to girls and I never have the nerve to go up to them. Boys are so much easier to get in the sack.

[salixbabylon.livejournal.com]

IMO, experience has very little to do with preference. And girls *are* difficult to pick up, I agree. Maybe we need to start wearing little "yes, flirt with me" ribbons or something. ;)

[imogenelovelace.livejournal.com]

I'm bi, married to a woman. While I don't have much experience with men, I like reading about them doing naughty things to each other.

[salixbabylon.livejournal.com]

Wheee! Thanks for standing up to be counted. :)

[second-banana.livejournal.com]

Queer as cupcakes.

Although, to be fair, I define "queer" as part of the queer community/spectrum. I'm bi, but pretty much hate the term.

I'm also open to poly ideas. I'm basically willing to consider many different options in order to make a relationship work, opening it being one of them.

[salixbabylon.livejournal.com]

FAIRY CAKES! OMG I would totally love to make/see/eat a whole bunch of queer-themed cupcakes. OMGOMGOMG *explodes*

I'm curious what you dislike about 'bi', although in a friendly way, not a challenging one. I've honestly never really considered it and am interested in your thoughts.

[klear0bsession.livejournal.com]

I rather felt like responding to this...
I would call my self gay, but I have and probably will sleep with the occasional guy. I just can not ever see myself in a relationship with one.

[salixbabylon.livejournal.com]

Cool, thanks for commenting! It's lovely to see so many people responding, and with such varied preferences! :)

[rosi-smaabu.livejournal.com]

I like to keep my options open. ;)

[salixbabylon.livejournal.com]

A girl after my own heart. ;)

[astrojen.livejournal.com]

Been with men for nigh on 20 years but did have a brief encounter with a girlfriend. I find women attractive just as much as men. Does that count as bi?

Jen ;->

[salixbabylon.livejournal.com]

Of course it counts! Shift a few of the numbers and that's my story as well, but I still look and drool and fantasize about girls, and I consider that bi. A "non-practicing bisexual" as someone up there said. ;)

[tessa111.livejournal.com]

Completely straight - and apparently one of the few on your flist if the above comments are any indication :)

Sometimes I wish I were a hot gay man though, so I could have sex with other sexy men :P

[salixbabylon.livejournal.com]

Nah, just one of the few to comment on this thread, I think. I did word it in such a way that was more "comment if you're queer" so I'm not surprised by the results.

I've always wanted to be a hot gay man. If for nothing other than the sheer joy of dancing at gay clubs. ;)

[lozateazer.livejournal.com]

With me it's all very mental. I often need to know about the person before I can feel any attraction to them. This frustrates my friends who want to cruise to no end, because the hot guy they're staring at only gets a "Meh, yeah, guess he's cute, but he looks like prick." (With a few rare exceptions, of course.)

I've mostly only liked men, but if I liked a girl enough, I'd have sex with her.

I guess you could call me sapiosexual, since their minds usually are what make me notice the rest, but that always sounds so stuck up. Its probably closer to somewhere along the line of straight or pansexual.

[salixbabylon.livejournal.com]

Excellent self-definition! Thanks for sharing. :)

[tamara-severia.livejournal.com]

Count me as something like bi. Past with my woman, today with my man, in the future I hope ... both? But they don't like each other...

[salixbabylon.livejournal.com]

Still a nice image to think about though, if you like threesomes. Sounds delicious to me! ;)

[phytha.livejournal.com]

Well, were do I start? I'm bisexual with a strong tendency towards women (would be politically incorrect if I'd discriminate men just 'cause of their sex*GG*). I'm very much against genderisation, being sure there are more genders than the two extremes, male and female, so this I think makes me kind of queer (at least in the German use of the word) and yes, I LOVE TO GO IN DRAG!! DRAG RULES!! Ähm, hope this is helping you
Love
Phytha

[salixbabylon.livejournal.com]

Yay! Thanks for speaking up - it's great to see how many "queer" women are on my list and how they define "queer" is an added bonus. :)

[luthien-af.livejournal.com]

I'm probably one of the few who can say they have *no idea* what their orientation is... at the age of 20! *snort* :P

[salixbabylon.livejournal.com]

No idea at all? Or just no preference? Or just not interested in sex at all? Sorry for prying, but you've made me scrath my head, wondering. ;)

(No pressure to reply, of course.)

[zooniverse.livejournal.com]

Very much Bisexual

[salixbabylon.livejournal.com]

Yay! Another one to join the rainbow bus! :)

[louhq.livejournal.com]

Bi (but I think you knew that!) and poly, married to a bi man.
I'm co-chairing a bi conference at the end of March; can I pimp it here?

[salixbabylon.livejournal.com]

Yay for more queer peoples!

A conference where? If you've got a post or something, I'm happy to link to it. :)

[molly-millions.livejournal.com]

Well I have technically only gone all the way with men. I've had three girlfriends where we both considered ourselves to be "girlfriends", with kissing and making out and feeling up. Also I was technically living with a man who was my boyfriend and also having regular and kinky sex with him. He was however very homophobic including, towards lesbians. I know. Let me just say that years later, I can see he is very very closeted and at the very least, bi himself. But anyway. All these experiences were when I was very naive and inexperienced and I could kick myself now for not going further. I was madly, just crazy in love with this one girl, and she with me, but my bf hated her, obviously he picked up on the vibe between us. They would get into these huge fights over me. :( She was this adorable girl, very badass attitude and kind of butchy but gorgeous. Short blonde hair. Blue eyes. This way her lips would curl into the most delicious, rebellious snarl. I would give anything to find her, but I haven't been successful. The very thought sets my skin on fire.
But at any rate, I wouldn't say I'm a pure lesbian, because I am just FAR too boy-crazy and cock-happy. In fact, I kind of sometimes wish I was a guy, though if I were I would never get a thing done. I swear, the only thing between me and abject poverty is my gender. *snerk*

So, colour me smack in the middle. Undecided. Parties from both sides invited to convince me otherwise, upon proper screening of course. :)

[salixbabylon.livejournal.com]

I think undecided counts as bisexual. I like to think of myself as greedy, personally. ;)